Sunday, January 22, 2006
Respecti realised some things last nite while before i slept.. just earlier on, my girlfriend snapped off the phone 3 times.. i always hated it when ppl does that to me, and of course, i still hate it.. alot.. no one in my entire life dares to do a thing like that.. maybe it's not dares or not, but perhaps it's just a respect we show one another as a friend..
but what i realised was.. if it doesn't happens, doesn't mean it will not happen at all.. i have never, in my life, snapped off ppl's calls and i always hope that no one does that to me.. because i realli find it irritating, when the opp party doesn't want to clear the air with you, but rather leave things unsettled till next morning..
sometimes guys can only have themselves to blame when the girl snapped on them.. how come other girlfriends dun do that to their boyfriends?? there sure must be something wrong, if not, she'll not treat you like that.. i took ten mins and thot abt it.. perhaps i was wrong..
what she did, was a wake-up call to me.. if i have neva treated anyone with respect, this is what is going to happen to me.. and by then, not only she'll snapped me off, other friends will too.. i believe there are many ways we can look at things.. in the past, i'll always get mad with her.. for cutting off the line halfway thru the conversation.. perhaps i'm gonna be
21 this yr, certain things, i can't possibly look at them always at the worst state..
looking at things on the brighter side certainly helps to calm tense atmosphere down to the lowest.. she snapping off the line, also made me realised how impt she is to me and how worried i'll get.. bcos i dun get worried, then do i still love her as much as before??
other than that, i also realised that, it doesn't mean that if she's your girlfriend/boyfriend, she must always be smiling, treating you like a king to soothe your ego.. it's better she treats you the worst than others treating you the worst.. of course, i'm not saying this so that my girl can go around snapping my line, there's a line to everything..
i believe as a new age guy, we shld be more open-minded to listen to what girls are realli thinking abt.. no point telling your buddies that you dun understand what they're thinking.. bcos ultimately she's gonna be ur wife, so if you dun even knoe what she's thinking, aren't you at the same level as other guys going after her??
it takes alot of effort and patience in nurturing the best relationship out of all.. it doesn't help if only one party is doing.. and of course, there's nothing such as who's putting more effort and who's being appreciated more.. different people love differently.. it's just how you want to be loved.. for my girl, perhaps her way of loving is giving each other space to do whatever we like, but still getting control in relationship..
she knoes i dun like sticky things, she tends not to stick so close.. she understands me much more than some friends i supposed.. rite now, i think things are getting on fine with us other than some arguements which leads to snapping off lines.. some friends said we shldn't let the girl have her way too much, she'll be pampered and becomes a spoilt brat.. some also said, giving way to them is actually a sign of respect too.. becos you respect the person, you give her whatever she wants..
for whatever he says or she says, it all make sense..
but what i say... i love her alot, and in my form of love, i accept her for who is she and what she is.. even if one day she becomes the most bad tempered lady, i'll still stand by her.. if as her boyfriend, you can't even stand by her and accept her for who she is, she's probably not the one for you..
my girl has accepted me for who i am, what i am, who i used to be and who i'm going to be.. i think i shld return back the faith she had in me, by loving her more each day..
"
i dun think it's a time to blame but a time to reflect.. isit that we're too naive or isit that we cannot accept failures? isit due to our ego which believe that everything must be so perfect that we neglect other's convenience by assuming that they're thinking the same way as we do??"
-----------------------------------------------------------
SummerLove winks
at |10:19 AM|
